I’m not the kind of domme that makes my slaves lower their eyes. I don’t expect them to hunch over in some posture of weakness. And I don’t demand absolute silence during the scene. It’s just not my style. I think such requirements can sometimes act like crutches, substituting for a real experience of being taken over by another. I want to look into your eyes when I take control– that’s how I get into your head, lock into your energy and hold you in my thrall. Shackling you up and making you hurt, yes these are important to me as well. But the physical trappings of domination are not the same as being dominated. Someone once said to me after a scene that he liked how confident I seemed. Hmmm, to me such a comment reflects that he’d never truly been dominated before. If a domme can’t look her slave in the eye, then what is she afraid of? And if she’s afraid, how can she exert absolute power? Fearlessness. That’s what I think is truly important when enslaving the will of another.