Wednesday, September 28, 2005

Mondays, Tuesdays & Fridays

I've been juggling around my schedule at The Gates as of late and I know there has been some confusion about my availability. Right now, I am taking sessions on Mondays & Tuesdays 3pm to 10pm and Fridays 10am to 5pm.

Beyond the current schedule, I am leaning towards switching one of my nights for a day, perhaps Wednesday or Thursday 10am to 4pm. If any of my submissives has a preference, do let me know!

Friday, September 23, 2005

Feels like Fall. I love this time of year -- when the sun is shining, the air is crisp, and the wind sweeps crackly dry leaves to and fro. Of course, there's no real winter to dread here in San Francisco. Coming from LA, I think I have a soft spot for changes in weather because they are such a rarity down there. Sunny all the time can get boring...

This weekend should be fun. Tomorrow is the Love Parade. And then Folsom Street Fair on Sunday!


Cool news! The San Francisco Bay Guardian, our local alternative weekly, just came out with its Sex Issue and The Gates is ranked #1 in a list of their top 20 favorite things about sex this year.

Tuesday, September 20, 2005

I just logged into Blogger and the "Blogs of Note" link caught my attention. It was for one called Las Fashionistas, which reminded me of the Belladonna/Rocco Siffredi award-winning adult film Fashionistas, but this blog was actually about fashion and Hollywood! ;-) Coincidentally, this other blog had a little thumbnail pic of a kimono costume I just picked up at a Halloween store. I dig the bright blue color and dragon print. . .

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Speaking of costumes, I recently updated my profile on The Gates to let everyone know how much I enjoy roleplays and scenes which involve uniforms and other exciting dress-up themes. Though I know some dominas do not like wardrobe requests and will not follow a script, I think dramatic play can be engaging and fun. And I for one do not necessarily see it as compromising one's dominance. Tapping into a submissive's most powerful fantasies and fetishes is key. So if my assuming a particular role engenders the right feelings in my submissive, then my control is that much stronger.

Certainly, I have no problem improvising off a script so long as the storyline is interesting and harmonious with a femme domme dynamic. I find collaborating in this way can be invigorating and highly creative -- having a blast thinking up dialogue on the fly, illuminating aspects of myself not usually revealed in scene, all the while clad in form-fitting uniforms, suits and other sleek attire. Sounds like a lively good time to me!

Friday, September 16, 2005

A Generous Spirit

For those with the means, giving over and above the donation set by The Gates is a thoughtful gesture of your appreciation for my superior standing as a domina. A tribute amount commensurate with one given to one of my peers in the independent realm is an excellent guideline. Of course, any additional gifts or monies are NOT a pathway to more explicit activities.

Have a wonderful weekend... gearing up for Folsom soon!

Friday, September 9, 2005

Whew! A moment to breathe and write a bit...

Just finished updating my Gates profile. For a microsecond I had my new pictures displayed at the top of my profile, leaving the earlier ones at the bottom. While I found the contrast between old and new to be an interesting representation of my development as a domme, in the end I decided to wipe the slate clean and start completely fresh. Anyways, it's best you see the tail-end of my evolution as that's where I want to play at the moment ;-)

One change some of you may have noticed with my personal site is the re-naming of my "slave profile" page to "submissive profile." I feel that the latter term is more all-encompassing. I am also sensitive to the fact that some do not like the word "slave" and all that is associated with it. I personally find the fantasy of sexual enslavement to be thrilling in its erotic complexity. Yet I am aware that some people have issues with the idea of anyone being a piece of property. I believe that there is a time and place for dominance/submission and the acting out of unequal power dynamics. And there is a time to forget roleplays and simply be egalitarian. As I have written on my site, I see individuals as humans first and foremost whatever one's self-identification. So while I do not ascribe to the philosophy of true ownership of one person by another, I very much enjoy playing with the concept of slavery and regard my being addressed as "Mistress" by those who serve me as an appropriate sign of respect.

Enslavement is intriguing not only as the concept of a contract between individuals but also in the idea of being "chained to one's passion" (actually a paraphrase of Madonna when asked to justify the image of her in collar and chains in the video Express Yourself).

I find the greatest source of control is via manipulation of a submissive's most deeply held desires. Surrendering all inhibitions to one's innermost cravings. And in this vein, I delight in my role as the tempter -- guiding and urging one on to... frenzied feeding, twisted bliss, the indescribable. I am reminded of a pivotal experience at Burning Man back in '96 during Pepe Ozan's first desert opera: painted naked bodies writhing in primal motion against the flames and chanting "Fire Tonight. Devil's Delight" over and over again. It was pure magic!

Saturday, September 3, 2005

I regret that I haven't had a chance to post lately. Very busy with classes starting, final tweaks on my updated website and many sessions! Some of you have inquired as to what I am studying for. Nothing set (yet) in terms of specific postgraduate plans. I simply love continuing my education to further my personal growth, supplementing that fuzzy liberal arts degree with practical courses in science, finance and who knows what else.

Happy Labor Day and I promise to write more soon...