Saturday, April 30, 2005

My last entry seems to have struck a chord with some of you. Shortly after posting my thoughts on chastity training, I received a number of inquiries from those curious about this special form of submission.

Such a positive response heartened me, as I initially had some reservations in writing about chastity. Would readers take it to mean that I am a prude? Yet in the end, I brushed these concerns aside because I wanted to convey the powerful and seductive effect this training had on me as the Mistress -- indeed, that energy exchange goes both ways.

Every time I venture into unexplored territory, my loyal slaves keep up with me. And with each step forward, I find other worthy slaves presenting themselves to me. Oh yes, I feel blessed by the abundance.

I had a wonderful double session the other week with the lovely Mistress Zara. Our combined experience and genuinely dominant presence made for a delightful time, at once luxuriously relaxed in our power and excited at the opportunity to toy with a slave together. Mistress Zara shares my interest in chastity training. I do feel fortunate to be able to discuss the finer points of femme supremacy with a seasoned cohort of The Gates.


A few words of appreciation to two slaves (you know who you are) whose generosity have inspired a love of leather in me. It took me a while to use that first gift certificate to Stormy Leather, as I had always thought leather to be more fitting for bikers or cowboys. Yet I have grown to really enjoy the earthy smell of new leather -- whether it's a tightly-laced custom corset on me or an even tighter laced arm restraint on my slave. Leather makes a sexy, supple second skin. It can be manipulated into many textures and colors. And it breathes a lot more than latex, that's for sure! I now own a beautiful dark purple leather victorian corset, am awaiting delivery of a metallic red and black leather military corset (seen here on the cover of DDI) with skirt and gloves, and will be getted fitted shortly for a gun-metal gray and black leather corset (on the cover of Skin Two). I'm planning a photo shoot this summer to highlight my new pieces.


OK you might by tired of hearing me go on about how I dig hot tranny porn. Too bad ;-) Brazil is coming out with some great stuff. Like Teenage Transexual Nurses: hot shemales in cute, little nurse uniforms dominating hard-bodied young men. Tying them up, slapping them around, giving them enemas and dildoing their asses! Also caught some excellent group scenes with T-girls, men and women with strap-ons all playing together. What I really grooved on was the almost gender-neutral vibe. How everyone seemed to be enjoying themselves -- and taking turns topping -- without all the silly homophobic constraints on behaviour. It's as if the presence of a transgendered liberates everyone from the bonds of conventional gender & power roles. Perhaps we are finally figuring out that we do not have to be slaves to our biology. As a pro domme and a true believer in what I do, I suppose it makes sense that I have found TS porn to be the most in line with my sexuality. Vanilla porn almost always has this femme sub undercurrent, which is one way of having fun but certainly not the only way!

Tuesday, April 19, 2005

Essential to my enjoyment is absolute control. And what better way to control than through chastity training? I have had the pleasure of expanding my experience in this area over the past few weeks. The level of satisfaction I felt in the act of muzzling my slaves was unexpected even to myself. While certainly not appropriate for everyone, it can be a highly stimulating means of conveying power.

Occasionally in the past, a new slave has presented himself to me already locked in a CB2000 or other chastity device. At the time, seeing their precious parts all locked up as they knelt at my feet did nothing for me. Now my previous reaction makes real sense to me. For if I did not order the muzzling, where is the excitement for me?

You see, what excites me about chastity training is the act of so directly restraining the slave's urges. The physical presence of the locking cage increases a slave's awareness of my control. It heightens lust by bringing attention to the groin area, yet continually teases the slave with zero access to relief on his own. And the fact that the slave must sit down to urinate heightens his vulnerability and my sense of control over his masculinity.

Such training may deepen the the Mistress-slave connection, allowing a peak into the type of bond formed when the servitude goes beyond the few hours spent in session. I have found it to be especially effective for my out-of-town slaves who ask to serve me on several occasions during their brief visits. A series of sessions over a week or two with chastity integrated into the training can be very intense! And I believe it adds a whole new dimension to one's entire trip. Attending a business meeting while secretly wearing a cock cage can certainly spice up one's day :-)

Below is an excerpt of an email sent to me by a sweet slave during his period of chastity.


i fell asleep peacefully last night having pleasant thoughts about YOU. As i lay there with the cage in place, i began thinking of how much i respect YOU. It is much more than the respect of a MISTRESS-slave relationship. i absolutely respect YOU as a SUPERIOR FEMALE and have the highest regard for YOUR skills as a MISTRESS. i crave to cower before YOU and worship YOU as the MISTRESS that YOU are. On another level, i deeply respect YOU as a person.

i appreciate YOUR openness and expression of care for me and others that you dominate. i respect and admire YOUR desire for learning and YOUR converting that into action. i admire YOUR openness to new experience and YOUR knowledge that YOU grow through such new experiences. i admire and respect YOUR own self-awareness, so eloquently expressed in YOUR BLOG and in person. i admire YOUR admission that YOU are learning more about YOURSELF and changing YOUR expectations as a result of this knowledge. i admire YOUR lack of fear of change. i admire and respect YOUR independence of thought, action, and course. YOU are a strong WOMAN who deserves the upmost respect and admiration. i could go on and on. All of this contributes to a SUPERIOR WOMAN who deserves complete adoration.

Tuesday, April 12, 2005

I've been extremely busy these past few weeks as evidenced in my lack of blog entries! I did recently receive a nice rating and review of my blog from, which is a site run by a group of women that lists the best of adult-related content on the internet. While not everything I write is by any means a masterpiece -- this journal is a hodgepodge of random musings, gems in the rough and more thought-out pieces -- if you read back through my postings you will find that I do have my moments of inspiration :-)

Here is the review in full:

"Mistress Xia is a professional Dominatrix. This site is her blog, her online journal. It is well written – each entry reads like a brief poem. Her use of language is stunningly beautiful. There are a few photos in some of the entries, and there are a few entries which are simply announcements of events that she will be attending. Not one photo shows her face, though, so I don’t know if you would recognize her if you attended! There are links to her professional site, with a lot more photos and descriptions of services available and to The Gates website, which is apparently where she hosts her clients. Again, no facial shots of the mysterious Mistress Xia! The blog is less informative than simply a lovely artistic read."

Tuesday, April 5, 2005

FYI My replies to emails from yahoo addresses are bouncing back.