Wednesday, June 8, 2005
Some thoughts on the journey so far. . .
One of the first things I state on my homepage is that I am continually evolving in my philosophy of kink. I deeply believe in the ongoing nature of this work. My pro domme practice allows me to engage in intense self-exploration, as well as connecting me to truly creative, intelligent and grounded playmates of myriad perverse persuasions. I am fortunate in that I enjoy a broad range of interests and am still being introduced to new favorites along the way.
The process of learning and growing has been fundamental to my outlook as a domina. Though my core self leans towards perfectionism -- and this works very well for all the minutia involved in fantasy play -- I have pushed past my fear of making mistakes to take myself to even higher levels of development. Though I still cringe even at the thought of erring, I have found that the missteps have often led me down the path to greater truths.
Indeed, I now find it ironic how so many dominatrices market themselves as born perfect, always right and inherently superior. To me, superiority is earned through wisdom. I concede that there is a natural dominant essence that does shine through. Yet power is strengthened through its repeated exercise, refined in its level of sophistication through processing and integrating new information.
My ability to control all aspects of erotic submission has increased exponentially since I first started. In the last year or so it's really begun to feel like a well-oiled engine: my command over my slaves resting upon a solid base of knowledge, skills, experience and ease of execution.
To celebrate this milestone, here are a few photos of me in my ass-kicking platform boots. Casual pics inspired by Tomb Raider Lara Croft. Turning over some ideas for my next "serious" shoot...
Tuesday, June 7, 2005
Wednesday, June 1, 2005
Boxers vs. Briefs?     I like 'em both . . .
I do love it when Rocco comes out to play! That's what I spontaneously called myself during one highly memorable scene where I cross-dressed in trousers and gave one of my sweet sissy slaves a serious course in slut training. A playful homage to that Italian stallion of porn, Rocco Siffredi ;-) Ever since that time, Rocco has made a number of sizzling appearances as my masculine alter ego.
There is something so exhilarating in transcending traditional gender roles, casting away the rigidity that is supposedly imposed by biology. The freedom of seeing masculine and feminine as two sides of a shared dynamic, where power is not permanently fixed to one or the other. A coin toss for dominance. Mistress Xia or Master Rocco.
There is someone I know -- an amazingly talented and beautiful artist and fellow perv who also happens to be transgendered -- who has offered to teach me a few techniques with body language and facial expression as well as make-up tricks and the use of things like shoulder pads to really bring the masculine illusion together. We've talked about going out on the town together with me dressed in drag and her on my arm. Just thinking about it gets me fired up!