Sunday, August 19, 2007

End of Summer

I've got to lay off the keyboard to avoid further strain on my arm - I've been writing a lot for this project I'm working on. I'll have to forgo any more entries until after Burning Man. Take care and have a great Labor Day (it's the end of summer already!). I'll be back blogging in September.

Tuesday, August 14, 2007

From Russia With Love

A friend sent me this link, an article in Russian using the cyrillic alphabet which features several photos from my site. At first perplexed, I ran it through Google's translator and got this rough translation.

There are many idiomatic phrases which failed to cross over -- and make for funny, almost poetic reading. But from what I can make out, the author seems to recounting her experience working at houses of domination in New York.

Why my pictures are used is a bit of a mystery, but I do appreciate the caption beneath each which identifies me.

I'll take it as a compliment that my images are so iconic they can represent the Femme Domme aesthetic in some random article published on the other side of the world!

Friday, August 10, 2007

Popularity, Exclusivity and Taking the Leap

I am a sucker for analytics. Like Alexa, which allows you to see how websites rank in terms of overall traffic on the internet. Since I launched it in '03, www.Xia-BDSM.com has consistently been in the top 500,000 of all sites online. In the month or so that I had it down recently, it decreased to 830,000. Now that it's back up, it's climbing ever higher and is currently in the area of the top 750,000.

So part of me was happy to see the traffic go down, losing all these casual viewers who have probably never sessioned with me and never will. I am by nature a private person, and in that sense a lower profile appeals to me.

Predictably for me ;-) I am a bit torn. We are all taught from a young age that popularity is important and desirable. We are witness to the darker side of too much attention, with the growing feeding frenzy invasiveness of being a Hollywood celebrity. Yet people still run towards it, like moths to a flame.

I suppose that's why I've always tried to have my cake and eat it too. By creating a web presence that's a force to be reckoned with, while at the same time hiding my face and keeping my number unlisted.

Who knows what the future holds. Moving towards more exclusivity may be the natural path. Perhaps one day it will make sense to have my entire site be password-protected, as the amazing Mistress Simone Kross has done.

Earlier in my career, it was much more impactful for me -- in ways both positive and negative -- to be mentioned in an online venue or receive some other public sign of my high demand. Yet after the novelty of such attention wore off, I found such matters to be of far less significance to me.

I've become less tossed about in the swirls and eddies of group opinion, retaining my flexibility while gaining greater stability. I have felt myself move closer to true authenticity as a domina as I've come into my own. It has been a process of building up what I thought I needed to bolster my case, then letting all that became extraneous fall away.

I am a planner, yet I have learned in life to allow the organic to unfold. Admittedly, it was challenging to have so much stripped away. It was time for those last few scraps of security blanket to be put down. One by one they fell: my over-reliance on strap-on skills, my clinging to The Gates, my ego addiction, even my use of private fantasies and relationships to color my view during scene.

I realized that these were all barriers to being present in the here and now with my submissives. My deepest fear was that if I let them all go, I would no longer enjoy playing with them. I did not entirely trust myself, and thought I needed to resort to these mental slights of hand.

Then there came a point where I knew that if I couldn't take pleasure in this craft without fooling myself in one way or another, it was no longer worth pursuing. I took the leap. And I flew!

By being brutally honest with myself, I find that I am now surrounded by people of the highest caliber and revelling further in the sweet fruits of my femme power. Faith works wonders.

Wednesday, August 8, 2007

Updated Gallery - For My Slaves

A quick note to my slaves~

I just added more photos to my private gallery. I know that I haven't gifted the password to everyone, so feel free to get in touch with me. It's restricted access because I want to reserve something special for those who are actively serving me. Plus there are certain images which I only feel comfortable sharing with submissives whom I have met and had successful scenes together. These beautiful pictures offer a multi-dimensional view of Mistress. Enjoy!

Friday, August 3, 2007

Lovely Ladies

I am pleased to announce that my dear friend Christine, a lifestyle submissive who recently entered the professional arena, is now available for double sessions. Chrisine's website is www.silkchristine.com.

I have connections with most of the established dommes in the Bay Area, and have an especially convenient set-up playing out of Maison de la Maitresse in San Francisco, where several other prominent dominas also conduct sessions. If you are wondering if a particular combination is possible, feel free to ask.

Here is a more recent pic of wicked Mistress Isa. I am sad to see her go, but excited at the prospect of doing a few last scenes together. She will only be available this coming week, then again the last week in August when I'll be out of town. With so little time for her to play, I'm going to go ahead and plug her here for one-on-ones as well. She may be reached at themistressisa@yahoo.com.

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Here is a pic of wild Mistress Sophie, visiting from Paris. She is now more of a redhead than a blonde, but otherwise just as stunning and powerful. La Maitresse has been a joy to play off of in scene together -- naturally kinky, creative and spontaneous. I look forward to more...

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