Someone recently asked me where to find a quality strap-on for a couple just beginning to explore -- one that can be ordered to discretely arrive at their front door. I recommend going through Good Vibrations. I especially like the Malibu Terra Firma as a good basic strap-on. What's also nice is the ring is on the outside, allowing for dildos with balls attached to hang out. As for dildos, it's fun to have some realism but when it comes to those strangely flesh colored ones, I think they're a real turn-off. I like shiny black ones, clear ones in dark colors, or solid ones in bright feminine colors like pink or purple.